Tuesday, 5 November 2013

Another sad reality check.

I had to attend a funeral today.  A funeral for a man taken much too soon.  He was 42 years young.

This man was the father of one of the boys on Middleman's past soccer team.  He had a son, 14 and a daughter, 9.  He had a young, beautiful wife.  And now, he's gone.

His wife was, understandably, beside herself.  So much so that I couldn't stay in the room.  But I still heard her sobs, every few minutes as someone else walked through the receiving line to console her.  It was gut-wrenching.

His son, looking so grown up and handsome in his grey suit, spent most of his time in the lobby as well.  Probably feeling pain that no 14 year old should ever feel.  He was stonefaced...no emotion...not on the outside anyway.  He was surrounded by several of his friends, a few of which were also Middleman's past teammates.  His little sister was not there.  She was left home with a relative, in the safety and oblivion of her home.

Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma took him in less than six months.  We saw him in early July when Middleman's new team played against his old team.  He looked dreadful.  Thin, grey, bald, sick.  We were shocked because we hadn't heard that he was sick.  He was still undergoing major chemotherapy then.

We saw him again in September at soccer tryouts...just over a month ago.  He had regained some of his lost weight, his hair was growing back and he had colour in his face again.  Only one more treatment and he would be done.  I don't know what happened after that.  I received a text message on Friday night from my friend to tell me he had passed away the day before...on Halloween.

He was self-employed.  His wife is a stay-at-home Mom.  I can't imagine the fear she is facing now.  How will she support her young children?  What will she do?  Where will she go?  My heart breaks for her.

And so, once again, I was given a reality check.  Cancer can strike anyone.  At anytime.  Cancer doesn't care if you are male, female, young, old, black, white...it just doesn't care.  Cancer sucks.  BIG time. Pin It

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