Wednesday, 9 May 2012

How to Miss a Childhood

This broke my heart.  Why?  Because sometimes, I am guilty of alot of the crimes in the first section of Hands Free Mama's post.  And I am disgusted in myself.

I am on my Ipad all evening. Sure, I'm in the family room, "watching" TV with the family, but who am I kidding?  I'm not watching anything at all...I am playing Smurf Village or Words/Hanging With Friends or Draw Something.

I go to all my boys' sports games...and I text, check Facebook and sometimes even blog.  But hey, some of the statuses I post are that I am at my kid's game and same of my photos are of my kids playing their games.  But, most of the time, my head is down.  I've missed goals.  I've missed awesome plays.  I suck.

I'm also guilty of yelling at my kids to make them leave me alone while I play my games.  That makes me feel sick to think about.

When Boy Oneder and Middleman were little, I didn't have a laptop or an Ipad.  My cellphone was used for phoning people, not playing apps.  There were no temptations.  Threepeat suffers because of the technological toys that I own.  I am guilty of putting those gadgets before my son.  Not all the time, but alot of the time.  That is unacceptable.

I think, overall, I am a good Mum.  But, I sometimes put my wants before their wants.  No excuses.  That needs to change. 

Starting today, my Ipad doesn't come out until my boys are in bed.  When I go to a soccer/hockey game, the Blackberry stays in the car or in my pocket.  I'm going back to making it about them.  I am going to grasp the rest of their childhood while I still can.  When they are all grown up and on their own, I will have all the time in the world to build a Smurf Village or play scrabble with my friends. 

Little doesn't stay little.  When I am old and on my death bed, it won't matter that I got to level 30 on Smurf Village or that I beat that friend in Words with Friends.  What will matter is that I put my sons first.  That they came before electronics. 

Thank you Rachel Macy Stafford for opening my eyes.  I needed to read your post BADLY. Pin It


Annie Ingram said...

I am right there with you! I am going to make the same pledge to my kiddos.

Hands Free Mama said...

And thank you for being so receptive to the message! The changes you describe are so inspiring! Thank you for sharing so openly and honestly with everyone about your struggles and vowing to be a part of your children's childhood.

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