Friday, 7 November 2008

Middleman

When Boy Oneder turned two, we started getting "So when are you having another one?"

To be completely honest, I was very happy with just Boy Oneder. I was a very nervous first-time Mom and I lost alot of sleep over things like minor colds and things that I realize now were ridiculous. I missed out on alot of Boy Oneder's infancy and toddlerhood because of worry...unfounded, extreme and debilitating worry. I dreaded the thought of adding another child to my worry list which was already overflowing.

But, I wanted a brother or sister for Boy Oneder. My Mom was an only child and she always told me she hated being so lonely. I didn't want Boy Oneder to be lonely all his life. So, in August, 1998, we started trying. I started charting my temperature right away and was thrilled to see a rise in the first month! Woot! But alas, August turned to September and still no BFP.

October 13th is obviously a lucky day for Hubster and I because that's the day I got pregnant with Middleman...3 years to the DAY since I got pregnant with Boy Oneder! What are the chances of THAT? After a blood test to confirm that I was in fact pregnant, my doctor confirmed a due date of July 7th, 1999...three years to the day of Boy Oneder's due date! Amazing.

In true Dawn form, I got extreme nausea within two weeks of my pregnancy confirmation, only this time, it was worse. I had a toddler to take care of as well as a baby in my belly that was causing EVERYTHING to make me sick. I started on my trusty Diclectin, but this time, I suffered until I was 17 weeks along. Hell, I tell you.

At 19 weeks, we went for an ultrasound to find out if we were having a girl or a boy. The technician knew instantly that we were having another boy. Sigh. I have to admit that for a fleeting moment, I was disappointed. I really wanted a girl. But within moments, that disappointment was gone...she showed us all his little parts...perfect hands and feet and a lovely little nose...all was good.

I got pretty uncomfortable towards the end of my pregnancy and stopped working in early June. I had a few wonderful weeks to spend with Boy Oneder...my last weeks to dote on him before he had to move over and make room for his brother. We watched "A Baby Story" together every day, shared ice cream and naps every afternoon. I'll always cherish those days. They were so special.

On June 28th, 1999, Boy Oneder's third birthday, we were in the middle of a family water fight, running around the outside of the house like crazy people. No wonder when we finally stopped to have supper, I started having contractions! I bathed Boy Oneder and we dropped him off at my in-laws' house and we were off the hospital.

We arrived at the hospital at about 8:30. They checked me and confirmed that I was in fact in labour. They advised that I walk around to get things going, but it seemed that every time I would lie down, the contractions got stronger and they stopped when I walked. Hmmm. At around 11:30, I got into the jacuzzi...wow, what a blessing THAT was! They got me out at midnight, when the doctor arrived and when she checked me, I was 7 cms dilated. She broke my water and just like with Boy Oneder, all hell broke loose. The contractions were one on top of the other and I was barely able to hold it together.

I was finally allowed to push at 2:00 am and 7 lbs, 3.5 ozs Middleman joined us at 2:14 am. He missed sharing his birthday with Boy Oneder by 2 hours and 14 minutes!

Because I gave birth in the birthing centre instead of the hospital, I was home by 10:30 the next morning. I was so glad to be able to go back home to my Boy Oneder, who I had never left overnight before.

Middleman fit into our family like a glove. He was a lovely baby, so quiet and easy. He breastfed like a champ and did so until he was 18 months old!

I loved Boy Oneder so much and wondered how on earth I could love another baby at all let alone as much as I loved Boy Onder...but I did...and I do. I learned on June 29th, 1999 that a mother's love doesn't divide, it multiplies.

And that is the story of my sweet, intelligent, quiet, beautiful Middleman.

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