Sunday, 28 May 2006

Going through the motions

We have the best of intentions, us parents. We really, really do.

We try to raise our children, working hard not to make the same mistakes that OUR parents made, doing what we think is in their best interests. We work hard to make money, mainly so that we can send our kids to camp, put them in sports and buy them nice toys.

My kids get almost everything they ask for. Hubster and I try to change that, but they are such good boys, it is hard to resist getting them a treat now and then…problem is, most of the time, it’s more “now” than “then”. We send our kids to Catholic School. My reasoning, besides the obvious, that they are Catholic, is that I want them to be in an environment where they learn religion. My parents raised Joanne and I in THEIR idea of a Christian environment…we followed the Ten Commandments and tried to follow the Golden Rule…BUT, we didn’t attend church and the only prayer I remember saying was, “Now I lay me down to sleep, I pray the Lord my soul to keep. If I should die before I wake, I pray the Lord my soul to take. Amen.” Joanne and I went to public school, and back then, we were allowed to say the Lord’s Prayer every morning after the Canadian Anthem. Now, and rightly so, public schools have taken religion out of schools. I agree with this completely…why should a Muslim/Jewish child say the Lord’s Prayer every day??!! Public School is not a place to teach religion.

Hubster and I have chosen to have our boys attend Catholic School as an extension of our religious activities at home. Problem is, there ARE no religious activities at home. Sure, we say “Grace Before Meals” and we talk about God sometimes, but we don’t ever attend church, we never confess to a priest and we sure as heck don’t read the Bible. I have the best of intentions, I really, really do. It’s just that life gets in the way. Excuses, excuses…I know.

Today, we went to my second nephew’s confirmation party. And it occurred to me that as Catholics, my family, both immediate and extended (on Hubster’s side) are just going through the motions. We go to church for 3 months before our kids’ baptisms, first communions and confirmations, but that’s as far as it goes. It is shameful really. We are teaching out children to be proud of being Catholic, but we are such hypocrites. My brother-in-law and Joanne (before she died) instilled such Christian values in their girls. They are TRUE Christians. They live the Christian life 100%. Sure, they sin, but THEY have the right of forgiveness. I don’t. I know I don’t. I talk to God when I need Him, but not when He needs me.

And so, I am going through the motions. Just like many, many others. We have all the good intentions, but we don’t follow through. Maybe good intentions is a place to start…I think I’ll go read a chapter of the Bible now…right after I watch The Sopranos… ;o) Pin It

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