Tuesday, 4 October 2005

Guilt

guilt ( P ) Pronunciation Key (glt)n.

The fact of being responsible for the commission of an offense. See Synonyms at blame.
Law. Culpability for a crime or lesser breach of regulations that carries a legal penalty.
Remorseful awareness of having done something wrong.
Self-reproach for supposed inadequacy or wrongdoing.
Guilty conduct; sin.

Let’s break it down, shall we?

The fact of being responsible for the commission of an offense.

An offense. Have I committed an offense? No. Therefore, I cannot be responsible for anything.

See Synonyms at blame.

This would be what I let people do. Blame me for things.

Law. Culpability for a crime or lesser breach of regulations that carries a legal penalty.

I haven’t committed a crime or lesser breach of regulations, so I can’t be culpable.

Remorseful awareness of having done something wrong.

I am not remorseful nor aware of having done something wrong.

Self-reproach for supposed inadequacy or wrongdoing.

Self-reproach…I had to look this one up…self-re·proach (slfr-prch)n.
The act or an instance of charging oneself with a fault or mistake
Guilty conduct; sin.

Based on what some people say, I guess I have charged myself with a fault or mistake.

Guilty conduct; sin? Nope, not here.

So the question remains, why do I feel guilty? My analysis of the definition of the word “guilt” leaves me with the conclusion that I have nothing to be guilty about. So why do I accept guilt? What is it in my psyche that allows people to make me feel this way? So, this leads me to my next definition….

blame ( P ) Pronunciation Key (blm)tr.v. blamed, blam·ing, blames
To hold responsible.
To find fault with; censure.
To place responsibility for (something): blamed the crisis on poor planning. n.
The state of being responsible for a fault or error; culpability.
Censure; condemnation.

To hold responsible. Do people hold me responsible? Yep.

To find fault with; censure. Do people find fault with me? Censure…had to look that one up too:
cen·sure ( P ) Pronunciation Key (snshr)n.
An expression of strong disapproval or harsh criticism.
An official rebuke, as by a legislature of one of its members. Yep and Yep.

To place responsibility for (something): blamed the crisis on poor planning. Yep.

n.
The state of being responsible for a fault or error; culpability. Nope. I’m not in a state of being responsible.

Censure; condemnation. Have I been censured? Condemned? Damn straight!

And so, my questions have been answered and it is time to make a change. I will no longer accept guilt for things that I haven’t personally caused or done. I will not be bullied anymore. I will surround myself with positive, healthy relationships…family or not. I will live my life to the best of *MY* ability.

So there it is…in writing.

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